Sunday, July 10, 2011

Marriage and the State

Elusive Wapiti recently made an an enlightening post about the state of marriage on The Spearhead:

“A contract that binds two people together, ostensibly for the purposes of raising a family.”

A quibble: marriage as presently constituted is a three-way contract between a man, a woman, and the State.

A man is contracting with the State to support a woman, particularly if she has children, for decades, even if the woman decides to exit the contract.

This is the state of modern marriage today. Which is why I find all this debate about homogamous marriage curious…it’s not like we don’t have polyandrous marriage already, so why the fuss?

The old Christian saying about not being able to "serve two masters" comes to mind. A woman can't serve both her husband and the state. It has to be one or the other. Feminism is all about making women choose the latter, as an astute poster on once pointed out.

I don't know how to fix this, other than to revoke the state's dictatorial monopoly over marriage. Fat chance of that happening. Off the top of my head, the best compromise would seem to marry without getting a marriage license, but there are probably hidden legal traps when it comes to that as well. I know some states and many countries around the world are starting to make marriage-like co-habitation, where you are considered married if you cohabit with a woman for more than a certain period of time.

1 comment:

  1. And yet he went and got married again, had two children. Apparently, all this stuff combined with having to deal with the ex doesn't matter too much to him.